My 23 & Me Discovery
An amazing thing happened to me last week. But, before I tell you what it was, I would like to give a little bit of a back story that directly pertains to this amazing event. Many, well, MOST of my friends and acquaintances know that I spent quite an extensive length of time in the Foster Care system in Texas when I was a young child. Approximately 4 ½ to 5 years. I am not going to try and go into any detail as to why this occurred, but I will say that I have never known, nor have I ever had the opportunity to know my biological father. I was reunited with my mom and siblings at the age of 9. My mom had remarried to the man that I call “Dad”. He was, is, and always will be a good man and my ‘Dad’. However, over the years I have had a curiosity inside me that has urged me to want to locate and learn about my biological father. I have questions like, “Where have you been”, “Tell me about your health history because it may be important”, and things like that. Not because I am looking for a ‘Dad’, I already have one of those as I have mentioned. I just want to satisfy my curiosity. Especially about the health stuff. (No, I am not Ill or anything like that, I just want to be proactive). Anyways, about a year ago, I discovered a way to make a possible connection, so I took it.
I heard about this company that offers DNA testing at a
pretty affordable rate and it will give you a pretty extensive background on
your ancestry and where you (and your people), came from. They also guarantee that
if anyone who matches your DNA has taken their test you will be matched up as
relatives. You may have heard of it, it’s called 23 & Me. It is a catchy
name that refers to the 23 pairs of chromosomes that we all have. Hence, “23
& Me”. So, like I said earlier. I discovered 23 & Me a little over a
year ago and ordered a test kit. When it arrived, I immediately took the test
and sent it back to them in great anticipation of receiving my results. Over this
last year I have received many notifications of ‘distant’ relatives, 3rd
cousin matches and such. I have also been notified that my first cousin whom I
know very well, and my nephew have both taken the test and we have been matched
up. The main reason I took this test was because I was hoping to make contact
with someone, anyone, who might have some information about my biological
father. Here I am, over a year later and still no connection with anyone
regarding that.
Now, here is where the ‘Amazing’ part comes in. Just a
little over a week ago, just right at about the time I was going to give up on
23 & Me and delete the app from my cell phone, I received a message from a
young lady on my 23 & Me app. It said, “Hey, I believe you’re my biological
father. I’d love to talk and learn more about you.” WHAT????? That was my
reaction. I looked at her DNA test results, (you can do that with anybody who
matches up with yours) and in big bold letters it said, “DAUGHTER” and, “this
person inherited exactly half of their DNA from you”. At first, I was like, how
is that possible? So, I started asking her questions. Questions like, when were
you born, what is your mother’s name. As it turns out, she was born in 1992 and
when she told me what her mother’s name is, a gush of a memory suddenly came
flooding back into my mind. I had dated her mother when I was in the Marine
Corps many years ago, her mother was in the military too and for privacy
reasons I will not reveal any of those details. For whatever reason, we had
broken up and I was transferred to another duty station. I never knew that my
daughter was conceived. Fast forward 28 (almost 29) years and I received this totally
UNEXPECTED message out of the blue. I was shocked to put it mildly. But the
memories that came flooding back were good ones, and I couldn’t even find
myself being upset with this young ladies’ mother. I wish I had known about her
of course because I missed out on the opportunity to be her ‘Dad’ when she
needed me the most.
I will say this though, I instantly felt a “Father’s Love
for his Child” and I welcomed this Beautiful young lady into my life. Into mine
and my wife’s life. Since this connection, we have spoken on the phone numerous
times, we have facetimed a few times and we have plans to meet in just a few
short weeks. I can’t wait. After seeing her on facetime and in photos there is
no doubt that this young woman is my child. All of my children (3 now) have
very distinguishing physical characteristics that they have inherited from me,
and this young woman is no exception. She told me that she grew up an only
child and she wanted to know if she has any siblings. I told her yes, she has a
brother and a sister. She was very happy about that and her and her sister have
also spoken on the phone a few times since we connected. What is really cool,
is that all 3 of my children share the same birth month. They were ALL born in
the month of July. Now how cool is that?
While 23 & Me did not give me the results that I was
hoping for, it did give me something far better, something I had never even considered.
I have a daughter that wants to know who her dad is, and who her siblings are,
and who her extended family is. And we ALL want to know her as well. All that I
can say is this, “While I did not find what I was looking for, something far
better found me. So, from the bottom of my heart. THANK YOU to 23 & Me”.
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